Young lds dating
One friend observed that in her experience, such dry spells aren’t “uncommon in LDS circles, but *very* uncommon in secular/regular life [but see below].
The understood subtext to all dates adds an extra-weird pressure to LDS dating.
But some of those in the dating scene, especially those progressing into the fifth decade (and that fraction seems to be growing) may feel neglected to the point that dropping out feels inevitable.
There’s just nowhere for it to happen.” I think some Church authorities have been fairly liberal in their concept of dating.
Elder Ballard has promoted the idea of one on one dating, but not necessarily with the sole goal of marriage.
Another man, back in the dating game after many years, kindly responded to questions about the current climate: “LDS people are more likely to avoid opposite sex friendships which won’t lead to marriage, and I think that hurts us.
Doug Brinley (a BYU religion teacher) taught that you should evaluate any potential date with the question ‘Would she make a good mother of my children? People who do that miss out on many meaningful friendships.
Those norms seem to be 1) social exclusivity (dating) is a big deal because it seems to imply a willingness to move in together and/or perhaps eventually marry, and is not to be embarked upon lightly.